SIGNS OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE;THE CHILDREN HAVING AN EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE PARENTS
Maha came to her room excitedly holding a degree in her hands.For her it is not merely a piece of paper but the paper is like a dream full filled, an ambition, struggle and a blessing.The whole family was happy and they all were waiting for their father to join them, as he was out of town for work.They had arranged a party to celebrate Maha’s graduation.Now she is a fashion designer.All was ready and the friends and relatives came and everyone was wishing Maha good luck for her future.Soon the door bell rang and her father came. Father was surprised to see so many people at home but joined them and asked what had happened, MAha told him that” I am very happy!! father !today I graduated,I called and texted you about that but you didn’t reply, I thought you were busy” mom arranged this party for me” Maha’s father’s face got red and he started scolding Maha in front of everyone.”you didn’t tell me that you are having your graduation today, and don’t tell me that it’s in fashion designing, this is such a stupid subject you have selected, look at Ibrahim, your elder brother he has opted a science degree and you always take silly decisions and never bother to ask anyone about it”. “I don’t think this graduation of yours requires any such celebration, your degree is worthless just like you“.Maha felt very bad and immediately ran to her room upstairs.Everyone there was shocked by Maha’s father’s behaviour. Maha cried a lot but she knew that this is not the first time dad has turned against her, he is always like that with me insulting, humiliating and blaming for everything but this time he has not even taken care of the guests at home and publicly embarrassed me.
This broke her heart into pieces.
This is nothing but a case of emotionally abusive parenting. Most of us know what physical abuse seems but emotional abuse of children by parents is a problem because the signs and symptoms are quite difficult to detect.
Emotional Abuse is when someone close to you even your parents or family members, or significant other is demeaning, regularly giving you negative feedback, criticism, calling names, blaming you for things.
Signs of abuse:
* Yelling or swearing
* Name calling or insults; mocking
* Threats and terrorising
* Denial of the abuse and blaming of the victim
Emotional abuse can be harder to heal than physical, because it is often hard to recognise when it is happening without physical violence.
Recovering from emotional abuse can be challenging, and requires a qualified therapist to help navigate the feelings of guilt, shame, failure, anger, helplessness and anxiety that can arise from it.
It’s really heart breaking to see children dealing with emotionally abusive parenting.This attitude of parents seems as a pattern to be rude or show anger towards them but repetitive insults and put downs can turn into emotional abuse.
This abuse not only is bad for the child at that time of insult but it wears away the child’s self confidence, sense of self worth, trust in their decisions and opinions and self concept, in short it damages the personality of the child by none other than their own parents and all these problems reflects in a child’s personality in adulthood.This abusive behaviour leaves a scar that is deeper and more evident than the physical ones.