Love comes first then romance, love…. What is love? Is it only limited to the boundaries of physical intimacies based on good looks and first impressions? Maybe, we confuse ourselves with love and our sexual needs or infatuations. But some people very clearly understand the difference between love and physical needs based relationships which basically are fake relationships. A true love relationship is the one based on understanding one’s feelings, needs, emotions, ideas, and gesture sometimes there is no need to utter a single word to express ourselves as our companion understands it all. It is not necessary that such kind of love, that is above of all the discriminations based on caste, creed, color, money, looks, intelligence, finding similarities in personalities, implications of terms and conditions of any specifications, to be with each other by means of the needs of physical intimacies, holding hands, looking into each other’s eyes or going for outings, asking to prove one’s love, to ask to redeem mobile’s credit, eating expensive fast food or Chinese cuisine in a high end restaurant which you would have never been able to afford yourself or your family would never take you there but now the one loves you has taken you out here for a lunch or dinner date and the total expense of it has to become a burden on an individual amongst any two of the lovers.
IT IS LOVE, NOT A BUSINESS DEAL:
Love is not a profit-loss statement! That has to be judged on how much wealthy, how much good looking , how much educated, how much skin tone difference, should he be tall, dark and handsome and she should be 36, 24,36, in figure, white in skin tone this much that she has similarities to Edward Collin’s sister it means too whitish complexion resembles cold, dead and vampires. No this all obvious cliché materialistic standards set up by society should not be the first things to be noticed and required in someone, if looking someone to live with, your whole lives and cherish it fully.
SO WHAT IS TRUE LOVE AT ALL:
To love someone you should be better friends, easy and comfortable with each of their worst states. You know there has been a survey on why most of the love marriages break up and many arranged to go long way, the reason behind it was that many lovers before marriage have had shown best of best of their looks and behaviors, and after marriage seeing them in their comfort zones and other side of their behaviors which was unexpected because they thought of their lovers to be angelic, whereas in arrange marriages go a long way, because both of the partners don’t really expect from each other, and whatever behavior they get from each other, they thank that it is at least not worse than it was thought. So what is true romance, what is true love, if next time you see a Bollywood movie where hero is running, dying, starving to death, fighting for the heroine, it is not actual love, we are mango people living in average circumstances, it is not necessary to run and get married for love, it is not necessary to cut wrist with blades or to smoke a dozen cigarettes, for both girls and boys, first find out the true meaning of love, and for God’s sake love in not only limited to opposite genders whom you find eligible to get married to, love comes in all size, shapes, colors, forms, and relations.
In every relationship you have to add an essence of love accordingly, with some faith, with some truth, with some emotional attachment, I am saying some not too much, you have to first learn how to love yourself and be happy, satisfied with your own skin, then love your already present relations surrounding you, your parents, your siblings, your grandparents, your cousins, then when you are good with all these relations don’t just rush in finding the right one for you, wait chill enjoy your bachelor life, you don’t need to rush and get stuck with the wrong person, whoever is meant to be yours eventually with all nature’s help he or she will fall into your fortune by anyhow.
In the end, I would like to say
“FIRST IDENTIFY WHAT IS LOVE ACTUALLY, AND SECONDLY DON’T HESITATE AND SKIP OTHER STAGES OF LIFE, AND OTHER RELATIONS WHO ARE HERE AT THE PRESENT TIME NOBODY KNOWS IF THIS TIME GOES WOULD IT EVER RETURN”