What is Dowry? Is it really considered as a curse?
What is it?
While scrolling down my Facebook feed I came across to this picture that caught my attention.
Dowry – Jahez, we often hear people saing jahez aik laanat hai.
But the sad part is we see parents cutting their stomach to get Jahez for their daughter. Why?
Is she not enough for the guy?
No, she is not! Apparently the greed has become much bigger than anything in the world.
If the girl’s family refuses on something they get to hear, “yeh apki beti ke liye hi toh hai?” if that’s the case why don’t you let their daughter decide what she needs and what not!
I agree, some parents want to give stuff to their daughter because they want to, and most importantly because they can afford it. Anything done without one’s will is wrong.
The Prophet (PBUH) is reported to have said that the best nikah is one in which the least amount has been spent. Those who can afford to give jahez should be the ones to oppose it and explain to the family of the groom that jahez is not an Islamic tradition. If, in every wedding, the families tried to do a little less than what their friends and relatives did, these wasteful customs could be contained to eventually die out.
Jahez is not a part of Islam, yet it is widely practiced all over Pakistan and among the Muslims around the globe. It is one of those practices which leads to some of the girls who belong to lower-middle class families staying Un-married!
How is it fair to them?
We see people breaking rishta over this, how is this fair to the girl? and there are a lot more situations that a girl faces because of her family not being able to fulfill the demands of the groom’s family.
When did materialistic things become more important to us?
These questions and a lot more of them have remained unanswered up till now! Kab tak aisa chalega?